Showing posts with label Wedding etiquette. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Wedding etiquette. Show all posts

Wednesday, July 25, 2012

Eco-chic Weddings

In case, you missed this before, I'm sharing it again because there are so many great ideas, I don't want it to get lost in the shuffle of my blog! I recently finished reading "Eco-chic Weddings" by Emily Elizabeth Anderson and have LOTS of great information to tell you about. As you know my passion is sharing eco-friendly ideas that you can consider for your wedding, it doesn't have to be everything, even a few green efforts can make a big difference. This will be a pretty lengthy post, so stick with me, have a cup of coffee, get a piece of paper to take notes, or get ready to click on links and bookmark them! Most of this information is directly from Emily's book and some I have added in.
Facts To Think About:
  • According to Conde Nast Bridal Group- American Wedding Study 2006 the average American wedding is now $27,825 in 1990 it was $15,208
  • Prioritize!! What is the most important part of your wedding that you are willing to spend money on and what could be edited out?
  • Borrow -  Emily wrote in her book that she borrowed her friends pearl bracelet which was special since her friend couldn't be at the wedding. Maybe borrow someone’s veil too.
  • Think about one-time-use items like your wedding shoes that you will only wear once, do you really want to spend that much on them?
  • According to the Bridal Consultants of America, October is now the most popular month of the year to get married.
  • Ask and find out if your venue/caterer compost leftover food? Could they donate to a compost community garden?
  • Reduce: Send your wedding invitations earlier than planned so that you don’t have to send out save-the-dates, or it’s too late to send out save-the-dates so you just send invites
  • Self-adhesive stamps come with non-recyclable plastic sheet backing so if possible get the moisten and stick stamps
  • Recycle your ink cartridges, more than 300 million ink cartridges end up in landfills every year. You can take them to Staples and get a discount!
  • Average money spent on honeymoon is $3.700
  • This is a BIG FACT I DID NOT KNOW!! 10% of honeymooners go on a cruise, but did you know that one of the largest waterway polluters is the cruise ship industry! Discharge into the ocean by cruise ships is not covered under the Clean Water Act. I have actually never been on a cruise but it's such a huge industry for tourism.
  • Consider going to a “green” location and doing “green” activities and rent from Enterprise Rent-A-Car since they have the Toyota Prius

Thursday, June 7, 2012

(Bright Idea Thursday} Monograms

So you're engaged now and considering changing your name once you're married, isn't it exciting to practice writing your new name plus buying fun new monogrammed items! Monograms have been around for ever and they vary from ornate traditional script to modern bold sanserif fonts. Let's refer to 2 resources to find out more about the etiquette behind monogramming.

A traditional 3-letter monogram has the initial of the individual's last name (surname) set larger, or with some special treatment in the center, while the first name initial appears to the left of it and the middle name initial appears to the right of it. For example, if the individual's name is Mary Ann Jones, and Jones is the surname, then the arrangement of letters would be thus: MJA, with the surname initial set larger in the center, the M for Mary to the left and the A for Ann to the right.[5] 

Married or engaged couples may use two-letter monograms of their entwined initials, for example on wedding invitations. Married couples may also create three-letter monograms incorporating the initial of their shared surname. For example, the monogram MJA might be used for Michael and Alice Jones.[5] However, monogramming etiquette for the married couple varies according to the item being monogrammed. Linens, for example, typically list the woman's given initial first, followed by the couple's shared surname initial and then the man's given initial (AJM).  - Wikipedia

Traditionally, a woman was not given a middle name with the expectation that her maiden name would, by default, become her middle name once she married. There is no “right” or “wrong” way to monogram. I am a firm believer that the groom’s initial should come first in a shared monogram; after all, it IS his last name. Although others believe that the couple monogram should be wife on the left, husband on the right "just like they stand at the altar" - Southern Weddings

At your wedding you can incorporate your monograms maybe with a moss green letters, toasting flutes, cake topper or on the cake with the design, or napkins. One suggestion though, don't give your guests anything that has your monograms on them as favors, since they will probably not use the gift. Instead use your bridal registry and wedding registry to add items for you two as a couple, like pillows, hand towels, luggage tags, china, and more ideas that you will find below for inspiration. There are countless fonts and designs to choose from so you can make your monograms traditional or modern. What is your favorite style? Did you get any new monogram items from your wedding???

find these here: 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8

Saturday, March 31, 2012

"Things I Wish I'd Known Before We Got Married"

Marriage or any relationship takes effort, kindness, forgiveness, understanding, patience, and so much more. I am not an expert, but I do have a minor in Psychology, plus my husband and I are almost at our 3 year anniversary come July, so we are doing something right. I've also kept my friendships between many of my childhood friends, as well as, new friends. I love being able to share our life challenges, struggles, marriage, divorce, birth, and loss. Yah, I know I'm getting TOO deep here, but I wanted to introduce this post well. I recently finished reading, "Things I Wish I'd Known Before We Got Married" by Gary Chapman and here are some key points from this book. I recommend anyone who is single, dating, engaged, or married read this book. He brings up many great points, some are religious so I don't want you to think I'm pushing any sort of personal religious beliefs, since I myself and not very religious but do have faith and I am spiritual. This book isn't that long, but has very well worth while points.....




"We will have conflicts. Conflicts are not a sign that you have married the wrong person. They simply affirm that you are human. What we fail to recognize is that our spouse has the same opinion of their ideas. Their logic will not agree with your logic, and their emotions will not mirror your own".


"Talking without listening leads to arguments".


"Compromise in a marriage is not only positive but it is necessary. Compromise means to find a meeting place. It requires each of you to be willing to give up something in order to have harmony in the marriage. IF, on the other hand, we both insist on having our way, then we are back in the argument mode. In marraige it is never "having it my way." Rather it's discovering "our" way".


"Meeting in the middle involves finding a meeting palce in the middle of your original ideas that both of you agree is workable".


If you are the one to compromise "you are choosing to do what they desire as an act of love because you care about them and you see how important it is to them". 


"I found out that the woman whom I married had ideas, some of which I considered to be stupid. And I told her so. My words were harsh and lead to a downward spiral". 


"There are no healthy marriages without apology and forgiveness".


"It's not necessary to be perfect in order to have a good marriage. But it is necessary to apologize when you do things that hurt each other". 


"Who is going to clean the toilet?? Who does what? Even this simplest question of who cleans what is important to discuss. Confusion over roles is one of the most stressful aspects of contemporary marriages". 


"I wish someone had told me all this stuff before I got married! Our first years of marriage would have been much easier. Since we did not discuss these issues, our marriage was filled with conflicts, misunderstandings, and frustration. I know the feeling of being married and thinking, "I've married the wrong woman." I reasoned that surely if I married the "right one," it would not be this difficult. Yes, we eventually found answers to our frustrations and resolution to our conflicts. We learned how to listen to each other empathetically and understand feelings and desires and to reach workable solutions". 


--Gary Chapman


Some resources that were provided in the book:
www.5lovelanguages.com (quizzes on what is your type of love communication, my husband thought it was silly, but the results are actually pretty right on)
www.smartmarriageright.com (resources for marriage building skills)


So do you have any thoughts on this matter???
Any words of wisdom, experiences, or do you find any of this helpful???

Tuesday, March 20, 2012

How To Choose Your Bridal Bouquet from Bridal Musings

One of my favorite details of weddings or any event is FLOWERS! I've always loved flowers and have also made many floral arrangements for the styled shoots, bridal expos, and will be making some for a few upcoming weddings! I also love to go with you to any floral meetings with my preferred florists. This blog post by Bridal Musings has some great advice that I had to share. Plus I love to support fellow TWIPS  --Layla


Floral Musings: How To Choose Your Bridal Bouquet

  • "What flowers should you include in your bouquet? What colours/shapes work best with your dress? How big should your bouquet be? And how on Earth are you supposed to hold your bouquet?!
    To help answer those questions, I’m thrilled to welcome Emma of Emma Lappin Flowers to share her top tips on choosing and making the most of your bridal bouquet.
    Emma Lappin is a UK based floral designer specializing in chic, elegant and stylish flower arrangements for weddings and special events. I had the pleasure of meeting Emma at a photography workshop we attended last year, where I got the chance to see (and smell) her stunning designs first hand."
    "Top 10 Tips For Choosing & Making The Most Of Your Bridal Bouquet"
    1) "Try to choose your wedding dress before your flowers"
    "When you meet your florist for a consultation, remember to bring a picture of your dress. The design of your bouquet is completely dependent on the style, shape and detail of your dress. I think the key to bouquet design is that it doesn’t drown you, hide the silhouette of the dress or unbalance the line."
    2) "Consider the shape and size of your bouquet carefully"
    "Do not opt for a trailing bouquet if the feature detail of your dress is on the skirt, but if you have a long train or bustle at the back of your dress you might want to balance the look with a more dramatic bouquet. Do not hide your waist as this is likely to be your narrowest part, so make sure the bouquet is much narrower than your waist. Whilst bouquet fashions change overtime, the most important thing is that it works with your dress but doesn’t drown you or hide the beautiful details."
    Bouquet of Anemones and Tulips by Emma Lappin Flowers

Thursday, February 9, 2012

{Bright Idea Thursday} Groom's Cake


Where do you have the grooms cake? What's the history of the grooms cake?

GOOD QUESTIONS! Here are some resources for you to read and help make your decision. My husband and I had such a small wedding we did not even have a rehearsal dinner and decided to just have 1 small cake that we each got to choose the flavors for "our" layer, but since I love chocolate we actually went with a little non-traditional look and had chocolate frosting. We also probably won the messiest cake cutting award!

Traditionally, groom's cakes were served at the wedding. Years ago, you could only get a wedding cake in one flavor. To give guests options, brides (initially in the US South) introduced a second cake. The bride choose the wedding cake flavor, and the groom chose a different flavor for the second cake (hence "groom's cake"). Now, in most wedding cakes you can get each layer as a separate flavor, basically making the grooms cake more of a tradition than a functional component of a wedding. Here in the south, most people have the grooms cake at the reception, not the rehearsal dinner. http://answers.yahoo.com

A long-standing tradition in the southern United States, a groom's cake is a gift from the bride to the groom. Think back to a scene in "Steel Magnolias" where all the women are having a discussion about a red and gray cake in the shape of an armadillo. That armadillo was the groom's cake Shelby was planning to give her husband-to-be. (Probably one of my favorite movies, and I STILL cry at the end!) A groom's cake is typically smaller than the couple's wedding cake, one layer only, and is decorated to reflect a particular hobby or interest of the groom. or example, a hockey fan's groom's cake may be made in the shape and color of a hockey puck. The groom who enjoys shooting hoops could have a groom's cake resembling a basketball. If the groom likes to strum a few tunes from time to time, then a guitar groom's cake is perfect. 

The history of a groom's cake goes like this. The groom's cake was not to be served to the guests while at the wedding reception, but rather it was to be sliced up, placed into packages and given to them as favors when they departed. Single women at the wedding would take their pieces of cake home and sleep with it under their pillows in hopes of dreaming of their future husbands. www.online-weddings.com

"Where we are having our rehearsal dinner they don't allow outside food, and I was told that you have the grooms cake at the rehearsal dinner. So does that mean you have the grooms cake at the reception along with the actual wedding cake"?

Even if the rehearsal dinner location doesn't allow food, they may allow a cake, so ask (they often charge a "cake cutting fee"). You can honor him with something humorous like a beer keg, teddy bear, sports car, cowboy boots, cigar, football or a computer. Go online to view samples, ask his friends for suggestions, and check with your baker for photos of previous work.

The groom's cake can be served at the rehearsal dinner or at the wedding reception. Because the rehearsal dinner is hosted by the groom's family, and involves a smaller number of guests, this would be a good time to serve the groom's cake.  www.weddingvendors.com

Even though the groom’s cake is usually displayed alongside the wedding cake at the reception, I see no reason why you shouldn’t have it at the rehearsal dinner. It can be a wonderful surprise for your fiancé, especially if it reflects an interest or a hobby www.bridalguide.com

Here are some more ideas for your designs. Carrie of Two Cakes does an amazing job!!


I wish we had this cake for our wedding since I'm originally from Massachusetts and a big fan of the Red Sox!  

Sunday, January 29, 2012

Average Wedding Costs

Do you want to know averages for Wedding Costs??
$ COSTS $ for weddings in or around Savannah, GA

Did you know that the average couple spends between $18,862 and $31,436 on their wedding! This total is based on the average number of guests estimated between 124 and 138. A single guest could add between $173 and $211 to the overall cost of your wedding.
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Granted not every wedding is going to have that many guests, plus you may not choose to have all these options at your wedding, or you may have friends/connections/family who can also be hired to supplement some of these costs. I tend to not like "averages" but we are asked A LOT about budget and I am in the process of updating our personalized wedding budget file, but at least this gives you a range. {our 2013 pricing will be changing to reflect experience, assistant(s) costs, and competitive pricing} Another very important consideration before reading all these pricing is to think about QUALITY vs. CHEAPER. Sometimes "you get what you pay for"! Plus if you are DIY (doing it yourself)...think about TIME vs. MONEY do you want to put the time into making favors or buy them from an etsy vendor or have your wedding coordinator make them?

Another great blog post about wedding costs is here by Lauren Grove: 


On average*, couples that marry in or around Savannah, GA should expect to pay:
“Just Getting Started” Planner ~ between $680 and $1,812+
Day of Coordinator ~ between $653 and $1,740+
Month of Coordinator ~ between $1,006 and $2,682+
Full Wedding Planner ~ between $1,925 and $5,132+
A la Carte Services from a Planner ~ between $868 and $2,314+

Wedding Photographer ~ between $1,266 and $3,376+ (not including prints, albums, discs)
Wedding Videographer ~ between $821 and $2,188+
DJ ~ between $554 and $1,478+
Live Band ~ between $1297 and $3,458+
Musician/s, Soloist, or Ensemble ~ between $849 and $2,264+

Venue & Catering ~ between $7,019 and $11,698+
Ceremony Accessories - between $152 and $406+
(Includes Aisle Runner, Ring Pillow or Box, Unity Candle, etc. but not flowers or decorations.)
Ceremony Location - between $694 and $1,850+
Ceremony Officiator - between $162 and $432+ (Includes Justice of the Peace, Officiant, Ordained Friend, Family Member Pastor, Minister, Rabbi, or Priest.)

Hotel Room for After Reception - between $208 and $554+

Reception Accessories - between $150 and and $400+ (Includes Toasting Flutes, Wedding Cake Topper and Serving Set, etc. but not flowers or decorations.)
Reception Bar Service - between $1,634 and $4,358+
Reception Food Service - between $3,214 and $8,570+
Reception Location - between $1,979 and $5,278+
Reception Rentals - between $1,026 and $2,736+ (Tent, Table, Chairs, Etc.)

Rehearsal Dinner - between $641 and $1,708+

Wedding Cake - between $286 and $762+

Flowers & Decorations ~ between $1,161 and $3,096 total
Boutonnière or Corsages - between $102 and $272+
Bridal Bouquet - between $106 and $282+
Bridesmaid Bouquets - between $137 and $364+
Ceremony Decorations - between $179 and $476+
Ceremony Flower Arrangements - between $227 and $604+
Flower Girl Flowers - between $65 and $174+
Flower Petals - between $67 and $178+
Reception Decorations - between $218 and $582+
Reception Flower Arrangements - between $264 and $704+
Reception Table Centerpieces - between $278 and $742+

Transportation ~ between $259 and $690 total
Limo Rental - between $362 and $966+
Other Travel - between $313 and $834+
Travel for Guests - between $533 and $888+

Attire & Accessories ~ between $1,073 and $2,702 total
Bride Accessories - between $107 and $286+
(Includes Tiara, Combs, Hair Pins, Garter, Shoes, etc. but not Jewelry.)
Groom Accessories - between $83 and $220+
(Includes Cuff links, Cummerbund, Tie, Pocket Square, Shoes, etc. but not Jewelry)
Suit (purchased For Groom Only) - between $221 and $588+
Suit (rented For Groom Only) - between $107 and $286+
Tuxedo (purchased For Groom Only) - between $380 and $1,012+
Tuxedo (rented For Groom Only) - between $101 and $268
Veil - between $89 and $236+
Wedding Dress - between $784 and $2090+
Wedding Dress Preservation - between $185 and $494+

Beauty, Health & Spa ~ between $90 and $240 total (**For single individual only**)
Hair Service - between $56 and $150+
Makeup Service - between $48 and $128+
Manicure & Pedicure - between $38 and $100+

Gifts & Favors ~ between $439 and $1,314 total
Gift/s for All Attendants - between $142 and $378+
Gift/s for Parents - between $107 and $284+
Gift/s for the Bride - between $146 and $388+
Gift/s for the Groom - between $136 and $362+
Wedding Favors - between $189 and $504++

Tips (for all services) – between $270 and $450

Invitations ~ between $524 and $1,398 total
Ceremony Programs - between $85 and $226+
Engagement Announcements – between $116 and $308+
Guest Book - between $46 and $122+
Invitations & Reply Cards - between $197 and $524+
Reception Menus - between $92 and $244+
Save the Date Cards - between $96 and $256+
Table or Place Cards - between $65 and $172+
Thank You Cards - between $73 and $194+
Postage – between $65 and $174+

Jewelry ~ between $2,983 and $7,954 total
Earrings - between $99 and $264+
Engagement Ring - between $2,618 and $6,982+
Necklace - between $107 and $284
Other Jewelry - between $212 and $566+
Wedding Bands- between $1,407 and $3,752+

*Based on information from www.costofwedding.com

Thursday, January 19, 2012

Marriage license Laws in the county of state of Georgia

Marriage license Laws in the county of state of Georgia, here's what you need to know and what documents to bring with you before you apply for a marriage license. We recommend getting this legal aspect of your wedding out of the way about a month before your wedding date. BUT sometimes the wedding officiant can help with this process. 
 
It is important that you verify all information with your local marriage license bureau or county probate court office before making any ceremony or travel plans.

Location where you obtain a marriage license:

Chatham County Probate Court
133 Montgomery Street
Savannah, GA 31410
(912) 652-7395
8:00 a.m. - 4:00 p.m. / M - F
Closed for holidays Observed by Chatham County Court

Thursday, January 5, 2012

{Bright Idea Thursday} Place Settings

One of my favorite parts of events is setting the table and making it look pretty!! There are a plethora of options out there and thanks to pinterest and blogs you can find amazing ideas. Let me help you decide on your wedding’s style plus give you some wicked awesome setting layouts (yep, I sneaked in some Boston slang). Are you more of a bright color, rustic, luxurious, modern, earthy, country, or Victorian style person? Are you going to have red or white wine glasses? Do you want the wine glasses right side up or upside down? Is it buffet style, so no plates at the tables? Would you like the napkins set on top of the plates or next to the plates? Maybe have the napkins folded in an interesting way - learn how to fold napkins here: http://www.napkinfoldingguide.com/ or http://www.delish.com/recipes/napkin-folding/ Make sure you ask the venue, cateror, or linen rental companies if they will fold the napkins for you, otherwise, your wedding planner (me) will be doing it for you! 

Classically, the groom sits to the bride's right and the best man sits to her left. The maid of honor sits to the groom's right. Depending on how large the table is, the other attendants can also be seated near the bride and groom.
(So that when you are looking at their faces it will be Mr & Mrs)
If you are at the table looking at the back of their chairs this could be the order:
Bride’s Mom, Bride’s Dad, Bride, Groom, Groom’s Mom, Groom’s Dad
Family Tables: Often, the parents of the bride and groom sit opposite each other at a large family table, with grandparents, the officiant (only if they are friends with them), and other close friends. An alternative is to have the bride and groom's parents "host" their own tables, consisting of their family members and close friends. In the case of divorced parents, each parent may also host his or her own table, smoothly diffusing any awkwardness or discomfort.

Now that I have your brain whirling, let me give you some eye candy. Enjoy!


Focus on Fabric and Color

Or maybe have luxurious tablescapes:

Are you more of a rustic table style?
{earthy}
{burlap}

Do you love candles?

Let's just focus on the close up of the actual place setting details:

Any decisions yet? What style do you like the best?
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